The mindfulness also emphasises that we can only attend to one thing at a time, even us women and if you are really honest with yourself you know that is true.

My car has broken down twice in a week and I have had to hire a car; it turned out to be a cute Fiat 500. It’s had a good test drive as I had to do some motorway driving and although it isn’t as speedy as my current car it is perfectly adequate. I have known that I need to change my car, so it’s now a no brainer, I know what I want. Plus it’s much easier not to speed in it.

My shower has broken! Anything else? The plumber came yesterday and fortunately I was in, whoever had fitted the old shower had used the wrong wires. He could fit the new one but he didn’t recommend it. We talked about a shower off the mains, couldn’t fit that because of the position of the taps. So he is going to quote me for taking out the bath and putting in a walk in shower

. Which is something I have been considering, just not yet.

I am sincerely hoping that this is the last of things breaking and I have a lot of planning to do about how to manage the consequences of all of these problems. But I think that the big learning is to slow down and take one thing at a time. Be present and reflect on what is the most skilful way of reacting when things go wrong. Or rather when things don’t go as you planned.

Better that you are HERE and  present, able to deal with what is in front of you.

One of the teachings from the Mindfulness is feet, seat and breath; notice your feet on the floor, your butt on the seat and breathe. Anchor yourself physically and mentally and let the issues come to you, so you can calmly deal with them.

It really helps because you are inside yourself, not rushing and straining ahead and feeling unbalanced. Try it see what happens!